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The Inception of Mid Life Mates
Why, and why now?
By Carol Korenic
There I was, newly single and 30 years old. It seemed like the perfect time to spend a few years on my own and “find myself.” Who was I and what did I truly want for myself and my future?
What followed were some of the most memorable moments and experiences of my life and I am so grateful for every single one of them, but as time passed, I began to feel the need for something more. Someone more, to be exact. I realized that I yearned for a different kind of companionship than that which my close friends and acquaintances could offer me. What I really wanted was someone to share my life with, someone to love and someone to love me in return. The real challenge was how to find that special person and where.
The experience of being on my own taught me a lot of important things about myself, about life in general and last but not least, about how ridiculously difficult it can be to find an equal, committed and loving life partner. After months of causal dating, I was ready to initiate a real, true and lasting relationship with someone. Unfortunately I quickly discovered the challenges of finding my dream mate would require more planning, effort and new strategies than I had bargained for.
At first I explored the usual methods and venues most of us do when searching for someone special. I went to bars, clubs and parties but quickly discovered most of the people at those places were there to have fun, not spark a new relationship. I was mature, educated and employed and serious about finding an equal to share my life with and I was surprised that there was no service out there to help me do that.
I decided to stop using old tactics in a new dating environment and create a modern, exciting and safe way to meet other people just like myself, who were serious about finding a real relationship and tired of playing the field with casual daters who were only committed to the chase. I figured there were plenty of other people like myself who were also wondering, “where are all the decent single people?” and I was determined to create a place where we could all come together to meet, to share our stories and, if we were lucky, maybe even share our lives.
Let’s face it; there are a lot of colossal online matchmaking services out there to choose from. When I began to investigate all the big name, expensively marketed computer dating services we hear about and see on television ads all the time, I found so many of them are no different from going to bars looking for that needle in a haystack – just much bigger. Searching for a mate on one of their sites is like wading into a huge sea of humanity and hoping that their computer manages to fish out a few good people for you to meet. Sure, these companies are leaders in computer matched dating, but I wanted a site that let real people choose their own mates based on what is best for them! I wanted a smaller, more personal, targeted and tailor-made approach to meeting the right person – the person that I chose. I wanted to keep the computer out of the decision making process as much as possible on the key things that matter most to me and let me find my ideal mate. I wanted support services that offered advice, counselling and up to date articles and resources to help me strengthen and sustain a new relationship. When I couldn’t find that, I decided to create it myself.
And that was the inspiration behind the new site you see today! Mid Life Mates is dedicated to people over the age of 30 who, like me, are tired of playing the worn out dating field and just really want to find an established, successful, educated, kind, compassionate and fun person to truly relate to. Whether you are looking for a companion, a confidante, an advisor, a friend, travel partner or a romantic life partner, Mid Life Mates is the new playing field for those of us who want to create a special, lasting relationship.
“We don’t decide who you’re compatible with….you do.”
Why, and why now?
By Carol Korenic
There I was, newly single and 30 years old. It seemed like the perfect time to spend a few years on my own and “find myself.” Who was I and what did I truly want for myself and my future?
What followed were some of the most memorable moments and experiences of my life and I am so grateful for every single one of them, but as time passed, I began to feel the need for something more. Someone more, to be exact. I realized that I yearned for a different kind of companionship than that which my close friends and acquaintances could offer me. What I really wanted was someone to share my life with, someone to love and someone to love me in return. The real challenge was how to find that special person and where.
The experience of being on my own taught me a lot of important things about myself, about life in general and last but not least, about how ridiculously difficult it can be to find an equal, committed and loving life partner. After months of causal dating, I was ready to initiate a real, true and lasting relationship with someone. Unfortunately I quickly discovered the challenges of finding my dream mate would require more planning, effort and new strategies than I had bargained for.
At first I explored the usual methods and venues most of us do when searching for someone special. I went to bars, clubs and parties but quickly discovered most of the people at those places were there to have fun, not spark a new relationship. I was mature, educated and employed and serious about finding an equal to share my life with and I was surprised that there was no service out there to help me do that.
I decided to stop using old tactics in a new dating environment and create a modern, exciting and safe way to meet other people just like myself, who were serious about finding a real relationship and tired of playing the field with casual daters who were only committed to the chase. I figured there were plenty of other people like myself who were also wondering, “where are all the decent single people?” and I was determined to create a place where we could all come together to meet, to share our stories and, if we were lucky, maybe even share our lives.
Let’s face it; there are a lot of colossal online matchmaking services out there to choose from. When I began to investigate all the big name, expensively marketed computer dating services we hear about and see on television ads all the time, I found so many of them are no different from going to bars looking for that needle in a haystack – just much bigger. Searching for a mate on one of their sites is like wading into a huge sea of humanity and hoping that their computer manages to fish out a few good people for you to meet. Sure, these companies are leaders in computer matched dating, but I wanted a site that let real people choose their own mates based on what is best for them! I wanted a smaller, more personal, targeted and tailor-made approach to meeting the right person – the person that I chose. I wanted to keep the computer out of the decision making process as much as possible on the key things that matter most to me and let me find my ideal mate. I wanted support services that offered advice, counselling and up to date articles and resources to help me strengthen and sustain a new relationship. When I couldn’t find that, I decided to create it myself.
And that was the inspiration behind the new site you see today! Mid Life Mates is dedicated to people over the age of 30 who, like me, are tired of playing the worn out dating field and just really want to find an established, successful, educated, kind, compassionate and fun person to truly relate to. Whether you are looking for a companion, a confidante, an advisor, a friend, travel partner or a romantic life partner, Mid Life Mates is the new playing field for those of us who want to create a special, lasting relationship.
“We don’t decide who you’re compatible with….you do.”
